Marissa. I let my son dye his hair whatever collor he wants in the summer too.I have done it with my oldest and do it with my teenager.It works perfect.So far none of mine feld the need to rebell and go all out on the style. 

Yeah I really hated the fact that growing up, I could never cut my hair short cause I wasn't allowed to since my mom didn't want me to. I ended up dying it instead. :-) 

in highschool I had a friend that did stuff like that but the school made him shave it because it was "too distracting" I dunno how it can be I think people are too uptight about peoples style (yes seeing boobs and guys butts is so not cool) and as long as I don't see that I really don't care. Just because someone doesn't like a style doesn't mean they are judging. Just means they think it looks rediculous. Opinions...its what makes everyone unique 

I can't stand it when anyone wears jeans that sag. My son says it's uncomfortable to wear them up like I want them. I still check and pull them up. I don't want to see your crack or your boxers. You look stupid. As for the long hair, whatever. My kids will never have long hair as long as they live in my house so that is all I need to worry about. Mohawks are also out of the question, ugly. The tight pants are ugly, I don't care if you are male or female. 

Everyone should be able to wear whatever makes them happy. Who has the right to say what's appropriate. Do I think the saggy jeans look good? No, I think they look horrible. However, it's their choice and if they are happy with it then so be it. It's not harming anyone. 

I could care less how my son wants to look, as long as I can't see his bits, his behind, and it's not offensive or explicit. If he can deal with the social repercussions of whatever else he decides to wear, within the above guidelines, good on him. I figure if I just let it go now, he'll be less likely to go nuts as a teen or young adult. I actually love boys with long or shaggy hair, but my son likes his hair short, lol. Now that he's old enough to have an opinion, we go to the barber and he tells the barber what kind of cut he'd like. Plus, my son knows the minute he gets in trouble, the mohawk is gone. We had to get it shaved off last summer, so I think he understands we're serious now. 

Growing up my parents had guidelines on what we could wear. Skirts had to pass my mom's shortness test and shirts had to cover the belly (for school and the public anyhow) They didn't care what we did with our hair. In her words "It's just hair. It'll grow back." as for holey jeans my mom was a bit more lenient. I have a younger brother and i don't think he had a pair of jeans without holes in the knees. If the hole showed your whole knew or were higher up they got tossed. 

For my personally it has so much to do with if a child looks clean or dirty. You can have a mohawk and still look like you had a shower recently. I do not understand what is so hard about giving your kid a shower/bath occasionally? I mean I know kids roll around in the dirt but that doesn't explain why their hair looks like it hasn't been washed in a couple weeks! 

I am going to put this out there now because I am pretty sure some of the judgmental stuff on here is probably the reason I have a hard time making friends out here, and to be honest, if someone is going to judge me because my sons wear motorhead shirts and baggy dickies, I do NOT want to be friends with them in the first place. my boys are 4 and 6 and I let them pick their own clothes out, I help them get the right sizes and if they wanna wear a shirt with a skull on it so be it. i am an old school punker at heart and i do not feel the need to dress my whole family in polo shirts and khakis when we leave the house (OR EVER for that matter). so before you pass judgement on what people are buying for their kids to wear... get to know the family first (obviously young girls should not dress like hookers but if they wanna wear trucker caps and those stupid neon sunglasses, i say let em go for it, they can put safety pins thru their noses for all i care... does not bother me one bit) 

My son has been wearing Misfits and Social Distortion shirts since he was 4 lol. He's now branched out to Dragonforce and Killswitch engage, I try within reason to let him do his own thing. 

and to add i know when the kids should dress up... we have suits and button down shirts for that, but in normal every day life, i do not feel the need to get us dressed in work/private school clothes to buy milk and eggs 

if i don't dress in "nice" clothes to go to the commissary i don't feel my kids need to..but a shower is a must LOL 

My husband is in the military, not my kids. He has to wear a uniform and have a hair cut in regs, my children do not. My daughter will not dress like a woman of the night, but as long as everything is covered and tasteful she can express herself. there will be a day when my son will enter the workforce and be a grown with grown up expectations as far as appearance so right now he can be free to be himself. sorry crazyk . you seem to be unhappy with other peoples thoughts/appearance so maybe you should, stay off the internet and out of the bx afterschool and on weekends. 

My husband is in the military, not my kids. He has to wear a uniform and have a hair cut in regs, my children do not. My daughter will not dress like a woman of the night, but as long as everything is covered and tasteful she can express herself. there will be a day when my son will enter the workforce and be a grown with grown up expectations as far as appearance so right now he can be free to be himself. That's all were asking, and no need for the personal retributions. 

RoxAnne, I am going with what you said. Clean is a big deal! I mean for gods sake, make your kid at least blow his nose. Other than that I am fine with anything buy hoochie mama looks. Cover your bits people! 

Tonight at macaroni grill i saw a little girl come in with a fuzzy pink hat and matching fairy wings. she was like 6 or something. it made me giggle and think of this post. I commend the parents for letting her go out like that. it has to be a little bit embarrassing. 

When I was that age I wore all cotton underwear with the days of the week on them or something HAHAHAH!! I couldn't believe it!! I actually still wear them... haha. 

Ohhh and if you think the people around here are bad... People of Walmart 

my children will have the freedom to dress how they chose, within limits, once they are old enough to decide that. my 3 year old already chooses his own clothes, with my giving him options of what he can wear. I will try to teach them that baggy jeans, showing off their underwear isn't appropriate, and I WILL NOT buy their clothes to fit that way, but once they are at an age to work and make their own money, I will only try my best to teach them to save and spent smart on clothes that fit and look good. If they choose to spend their money on clothes, and I don't agree with them, well, its their money, their choice, not much I will say past my opinion on it. With girls, because I was one, I can say its honestly a bit harder. I dressed as a "woman of the night" as people have titled it from about 16 til I got pregnant with my son. I was harshly judged for the clothes I wore, even when I was active duty and wore shorts and spagetti strapped tank tops in the Texas summers. My mom didn't have much choice in what I wore because I would leave those clothes with a friend and they would get them to me once I left the house. Or, I would just hide them and take them with me and change once I left... Do I feel that wearing some of those things at 16 was appropriate, definitely not now looking back on it, but I was comfortable, I didn't care what anyone else thought, and even today, I still don't care. The way I see it, IF YOU DON'T LIKE HOW I LOOK OR WHAT I AM WEARING, QUIT LOOKING IN MY DIRECTION... no one is forcing you to look at me, and just because I am wearing short shorts and a tub top doesn't automatically make me a slut... maybe my body temp is higher so I get warmer than most... maybe it was the only clean clothes I had and just didn't feel like doing laundry that day... maybe I am a slut, who the heck knows what drives a person to wear the clothes they wear... its not everyone elses business to look and judge me because of what I am wearing... besides, people who WILL judge me because of my clothes are the people I don't really want in my life anyway... I want to be judged for ME, the person I am, the actions I take, and the loyalty I have to my friends... if that isn't what you are judging me on, then you aren't worth my time... and that is exactly what I will be teach my kids 

Im more worried about with the amount of skin that kids show today, what the heck is it gonne be like in 10 years? 20 years? To be honest, I don't think I've ever looked at another adult whos undies where showing above his sagging pants and seeing a women with her boobs practically hanging out and wondered what their personality is like as my first thought. Imagine what its like for men! I teach my kids not to stare and that its rude for them to ask "Why are his underwear showing?" loud in public. Yeah, my kid has done that. But I think no matter what I teach them about accepting people, Im also teaching them what I believe is decent in dressing for themselves and that will always come into their mind before they even talk to someone. I would still talk to someone but I don't think I can ever help the "thats unacceptable" thoughts I have. 

I have seen some grown ladies out here with their boobs out and I have no problem speaking with them but the whole time my brain is going "boobs boobs boobs, don't say boobs" hahaha I mean really, it is hard for me to talk to you when I can't tell if I am looking into your eyes or at your nipples... Cleavage on a grown woman is fine, but please don't let me see the rest of your goods! So as far as the improper dressing goes, I see it it on everyone, not just young girls... 

lol @ robin....